Weight Loss Wednesday #12 – The Truth Hurts

Today’s lesson: The truth hurts.

We chat about a wide array of things on “Fitz in the Morning” and we just so happened to be talking about weight loss. I learned, the hard way, that my co-host Tony is going to be the guy who gives you the truth whether you want to hear it or not. While on the air, I asked him point blank, “Do you think I need to lose weight?” His response, “Yeah. You need to lose a few pounds.” Ouch.

I cried. On the air. Like a total amateur. I like to think I hid it well but despite my hurt feelings, he was right. Do I think he should have pointed it out like that in front of everyone? Absolutely not. But was he wrong? Absolutely not.

Now we can argue whether or not he should have lied to me but I realized I wasn’t upset that he said it. I was upset because it was the truth. I do need to lose more weight and if this isn’t motivation to stick to the plan, I don’t know what is!

Ellen Tailor Weight Loss WednesdayCheers to the latest before and after photos! After the day I had, I needed to see this progress. I’m down nearly 20 inches and 21 pounds. I really wish I had worn a different top when I started taking these pictures because I think the difference would be much more noticeable but all I wanted to do then was hide behind baggy outfits.

I go into every month thinking that this will be the time I plateau. Would today be that day my nightmare becomes a reality? I’m raking my brain about everything I put in my mouth the past month. Every time I made an excuse not to go to the gym.

Making excuses not to go to the gym isn’t a factor anymore. Precor Home Fitness heard about my journey, read my Weight Loss Wednesday posts and they decided they could help. I couldn’t be happier to work with them!

There’s no better investment to make than in yourself. Think about it. We waste stupid amounts of money on gimmicky equipment that doesn’t work. Save your pennies and check out your local Precor Home Fitness. I talked to Brian at the Bellevue, Wash., location and explained my goals. He set me up with everything I needed to succeed.

Having a specialized “gym” at my house has been a God sent. I wish I would have done it sooner. I can stumble downstairs without worrying about what I look like or if someone’s going to judge me. My dog, Charlie, even keeps me company as I sweat on the treadmill!

Thank you so much for all of your kind words and support on this blog, my Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram pages as well. I read every single comment and am constantly overwhelmed by the outpouring. You all are very kind! Thank you again. xo.

60 comments

  1. You look fabulous!!! Having battled weight my ENTIRE life I know how hard and what a struggle it can be. Keep it up. You just have to take it one day at a time, one rep at a time.

    1. Good job Ellen!!! I wish I had the will power you do, I don’t even know where to start to lose weight and I always start something but don’t finish because I get discouraged. Do you have any tips for me? Also what foods do you eat?
      Thank you and good job again

  2. I like that you wore the same outfit. It really does show the huge difference 21 pounds can make. I thought you were beautiful before and even more so today. The truth does hurt but I think its better to come from someone who cares about you like Tony does than from some random joe on the street corner. Keep up the good work Ellen!

  3. You look fabulous girl – keep it up! Oh, and I’ve learned the hard way too – never ask a question, you really aren’t prepared to hear the answer for. Should he have lied? No, that’s not the right thing to do either…if a question is asked an honest answer is expected. Now, could he have worded it much differently, 100% yes…always give 2 positives if you’re giving a negative! Keep it up!

  4. I think you look great and can totally see the difference even if you had a baggy shirt. Your face, arms, chest, and waist are slimming down for sure!!

  5. It only hurts when you see it thru someone else’s eyes. Weight loss only works when you do it for you! You look great! You set the limits for you.

  6. You go girl! I have loved following along with your adventure and I can relate to having to face up to hard truths. Way to use that as fuel to your fire! You are on a roll and have been an amazing inspiration and motivator.

    Two quotes that have kept me going this week as I get back to tracking on MFP are, “If you don’t make changes, nothing will change” and “Don’t expect results from excuses”! I totally agree about investing in your health…it’s true we waste so much money on dumb crap, why not focus that into grabbing our goals? Keep it up!

  7. your doing great last year I went from 215 down to 180.. I run three to four miles a day on the treadmill . the best thing that happened to me last year was my feelings with her and I took control.. then I found the love of my life and live in Washington now.. so when you’re done with this journey your journey of having a relationship will happen

  8. Girl, you can totally see the difference!!! And it’s not just about losing the pounds, it’s how your clothes fit (or don’t fit… um, hello? Shopping trip, anyone?!?!), how much stronger you are (physically and mentally), your overall HEALTH (all those fancy numbers our Docs are worried about), and best of all… BEING HAPPY! Keep at it, dear! You rock!

    PS – You’re going to get so totally sick of your photo outfit and one day then… BAM! New sexy workout outfit that you will be proud to wear and flaunt your hotness in! That day is gonna ROCK! 🙂

    1. You’re so right! My clothes from last Fall are too big. That’s a good feeling. My trainer thinks that I’ll gain enough confidence to work out in a bikini one day…we’ll see about that!

  9. You look great and just keep going I know the feeling I started working out at the gym about 3-4 weeks ago and ever since then I have done nothing but gain weight it sucks..I keep having people tell me I look like I lost I am sure I have lost inches I never thought to measure myself.duhh but it can be discouraging when you don’t see the numbers go down well finally last week I got a 3lb loss so keep your chin up you inspire me keep on going

    1. Stop right now and take pictures! I bet you’re losing fat and gaining muscle. You’ll be able to notice it in pictures and measurements. It’s not just about the scale! I have pictures of me at the same weight and I look completely different now even though the scale says the same thing. Your body IS changing! Keep up the good work. 🙂

  10. Ellen you look great. I know the feeling. Started out at 230 lbs back in April and didn’t really start working on losing weight til June. I am now 177! And still working on it. If I would ask that same question of anybody I hope they would say the same thing Tony said as it IS motivation to keep going and honestly if your asking, YOU already feel like you do need to lose weight. Im getting married next summer and my goal weight is 125 🙂 Keep up the hard work Ellen, you have lots of supporters trying to do the same thing as well!

  11. You look aamazing! I’m inspired by your fitness goals , trials and tribulations. You keep it real . Keep up the hard work it’s paying off girl!!

  12. First, way to go! Losing weight is hard. Really hard. And speaking about it on the radio and blogging about it, well that has to add to how tough it is. But in the kindest way, I think I’m confused when you appear to believe your journey is not over yourself, why was it hurtful that Tony agreed? Maybe the question shouldn’t have been do you need to lose more, rather than can you see the change? I think this was what you really wanted to, and needed to, hear. And yes! The difference is visible! You are making progress! Way to go!

    1. It wasn’t that he said it. It was that it’s still hard to believe I let myself get this out of hand…this out of shape. Yes, I’m changing. Yes, I believe in my progress. And yes, I let myself go. I’m pissed that I have to be on this journey but what can you do? Might as well embrace it.

  13. You’re doing fantastic, you’re beautiful inside and out. You’re very inspirational to many of us who fight the same daily battle with ourselves. Celebrate the daily wins and keep thinking positive and feel the positive results.
    Not long ago I was ready to quit, I was consistently working out so hard, consciously eating healthy and only losing ONE pound after 3 weeks. I thought of your first month and how you talked about not seeing results on the scale. Now entering my 8th week, I’m losing inches along with another pound or two! Yay! Thank you for sharing your life and challenges with all of us. 🙂

    1. I wish more people were honest about weight loss. It’s so much more than the number on the scale and now you realize that, too! Inches lost is just as good of a feeling, right?!

  14. I am 4 days fast food sober and already I feel less hungry and more energized. Thanks to you! You look so great!! You motivate a lot of people! Especially me! Also, even if you never lose another pound after today, you can relish in the fact that you are HEALTHY, STRONG, and FIT! Weight shouldn’t matter (although i know to women, it does..we cant help but care about that number on the scale) But as long as you are getting healthy, fit and strong..who cares right!!?! Keep it up Ellen!

  15. You’re a completely beautiful person no matter what size you are. Keep feeling proud of how far you’ve come, you aren’t at your destination yet but well on the way.

    -vic, BC

  16. Ellen you are a very BEAUTIFUL lady. I’ve been listening to you since you moved to Washington… But your decision to do what your doing is awesome some people wouldn’t even accomplish what you’ve done for yourself. Very proud if you lady keep it up!

  17. Weight is one of the toughest battles anyone can face. I spent 14 years in the military and after getting out, I too struggle to maintain a healthy weight(for me, that is). For years I was in great shape. Was constantly reminded that I needed to be at my best at all times because not only was it good for me, but it was for the good of the team. I was injured in a training incident and was put on light duty and no longer “part of the team” because I was not deployable. I gained 60 pounds in the last couple of years I was in. Depression and anxiety were at an all time high. Since last October though, I have dropped 30 pounds and put a lot of muscle back on. Not where I want to be yet, but I’ll get there. As long as you don’t lose your motivation and you’re doing it for you, you’ll get there. If you ever feel like it’s not working, just remember where you were when you started. It’s not a problem, it’s a challenge.

    1. Congratulations on your success. 30 pounds is a lot! Women aren’t the only ones that struggle. Thanks for sharing and keep me updated. Do it for YOU! 🙂

  18. Although, regarless of your size, I think you are a beautiful person and a real friend when asked a question is going to give you an honest answer – even if it isn’t the answer you want to hear. Besides you can already tell you have lost weight in the pictures you post – let that be your little reminder of where you started and how far you have come as well as a positive boost to remind you of where you want to be. Don’t focus on the number …. Focus on your health and happiness and the rest will fall into place.

    TONY – Next time Ellen asks a dangerous question, what till after the show if you are going to answer it. 😉

  19. Ellen,
    You are such an inspiration. I listen every single morning when I’m getting ready for work and on my way in. Three years ago, I had lost about 100 pounds and was training for my first physique competition for body building. In the midst, I thought I had torn a pec muscle. Long story short, I ended up having a bilateral mastectomy. I’m only 26 and was 24 at the time. I’ve gained about 60 off it back and feel so hopeless sometimes. You really do inspire women everywhere! Keep up the awesome work!
    Lots of love,
    YOUR own P1

    1. You have been through some tough times and have made it out even better than before. You’ve lost the weight before, you can do it again! I believe in you!

  20. “Until we accept ourselves as we are we cannot change.” It is the hardest part for me to accept myself as over weight but I think that is what’s holding me back. Your consistent forward movement is what is so inspirational. You overcome your set backs and continue the climb. You rock.